Through our ongoing infinite wisdom and the complete overview knowing of all previous, and future, incarnations, we enter the current incarnation into the energetically correct scenario complete with characters and places and things and with high potential to give us the events we are seeking this time around. An undercurrent to that is the fact that we are here to consciously remember our design Wholeness so that we can live in that frequency at all times. Both of these elements direct us on our merry /un-merry way responding to our thoughts, beliefs, and actions…our intended plan…as well as the unique composition of our own DNA strands that are beginning to infiltrate our moment by moment awareness more and more. In these times, especially, life is a grand adventure that can easily go hither and yon, but is always leading us to and through the vibrational places that call in a language only we each can understand.

 The family of origin is your first incarnational community. Their energetic influences begins in some ways at the point of conception. Parental thoughts, especially the Mother’s,  beliefs, words spoken, emotions, eating habits, etc are all influencing the child though the in utero journey. Remember that in the pre incarnational state you worked with your guidance and higher self to select the players who will be there when you arrived. You saw into personalities and energetic baggage, past life interfacings and current life actions. You looked into their heart and felt them on deep levels and used this against your personal intentions. These ones became the human foundation you would need to set this journey in the direction desired. Their skills, talents, capacities, and achievements influenced your choice to select their vibration.

In some case you already knew them. In some cases you had unfinished business. More often than not we lives with one another, often as members of a soul group, assisting one another to experience and become what we desire and intend. Sometimes parents will reincarnate as children of their previous incarnation children or relative or significant other. These reconnections are all from a higher place. They are not punishment for in the true vibration there is only Love and compassion. But on the Earth plane with the duality and polarizing elements paired with free will and choice anything is possible and everything can change in an instant. Therein lies the fun and the adventure and the reasons to keep coming back. The unpredictability calls upon us to find and utilize inner resources that are perhaps underdeveloped.

I have evidence that one of my incarnations in Medieval England was as a wandering minstrel who had a spiritual epiphany. His music blossomed and began to impact the masses in a powerful way, even influencing the willingness of people to follow the rules of the fiefdom. The monarch of that area turns out to be my Mother in this life. She was given a choice, to allow me to grow my influence and impact her bottom line, or get rid of me and my musical rebellion. She chose the latter and had my throat slit. This energy showed up in our relationship in this life as she was often very aloof and controlling, acting like a queen. Her capacity to support was compromised and more than once she interfered and compromised my musical career choices. And yes, I allowed it. Bleed through it is called. I had to work diligently to finally extricate myself from that influence and reach, just before she died, a place of acceptance and forgiveness…enough to let her go and not perpetuate the ties and the patterns. Yes, some connections are insidious. It was necessary so I could rekindle my own personal power, especially around “strong women”.

The old paradigm of karma is tied more to the human oriented structure of good/evil, punishment/reward, foundation than a spiritual flow that steers us to that which serves our highest good. Though there may be value in incarnating as parent of one who harmed us, the Cosmos does not do payback. It looks for and moves us toward understanding and compassion and forgiveness as legitimate and effective tools of change. As we are sentient beings who feel on multiple levels we are very aware of what we have done in all of our incarnational choices. We are also, by design, self regulating, and can redirect our pathway towards and into higher frequency living. Having to experience the opposite of what we have done is not such an effective tool anymore, now that so many are waking up.  

Your family of origin consists of parents, siblings, and animals that you grow up in, especially through age 12. Because in this earthly dimension we arrive in a somewhat helpless state, requiring much hands on care and support as we get our sea legs and access our capabilities in the physical, emotion, mental, and spiritual regions, the specific impact of these years and these people impacts deeply, often redirecting our lives in ways contrary to our intentions. Thus, the importance of each player cannot be understated. They are pivotal in the journey we are on as their influence, often through the unprocessed woundings and the adopted beliefs and patterns. These steer us to people and situations where we get opportunity to rise above the lower frequency influence. Thus, in the big picture, each is a gift to us, an agreed upon resource who shows up by mutual appointment.

Before we move into what to do with all of this, let’s address animals. The pets that find their way into our lives and hearts are powerful players who serve us in ways that range from teaching loyalty and devotion and unconditional love to forcing deep loss, even trauma,  into our being. Their time with us is an agreement that serves us well. I have had a very challenging time with family pets and loss. Everyone of them died in my presence, 3 birds, three dogs, 2 cats…I had a disturbed uncle who was a Korean War Veteran who took out his wounding on cats as he set up scenarios to kill them while my brother and I looked on in horror. And, to this day, I have not had animals of my own. Mainly because I travel and could not make it work. Wherever I go animals flock to me. In the yard regular visitors include deer, raccoons, quail families, birds, rabbits, turkeys, bobcats, foxes, hummingbirds, cats, hawks, mice…I simply do not kill animals of any kind. I catch spiders and take them outside…show flies the way out…negotiate with the mice who find their way in from the forest….the only exception…mosquitos. Oh, well…I am very good with the cats and dogs freely providing hands on love in bunches. What I got as a boy moved me to a greater understanding of the eternal connection of life, beyond endings. That has served me greatly in my personal awakening and in my work with others.

We each set up a place of entry with a host of necessary characters with the best personalities and history to provide us with what we and our own Higher Self surmised was the best way to experience this incarnation and dimension. Yes, we are that powerful and life is so interconnected, even dimensionally. The old beliefs of separation are wrong.

Many get away from the family of origin as quickly as they can, choosing to live in the woundings and having restricted connection. That is a choice. Your relationship with each is yours to choose. We must be cognizant of the influence on our lives here. The higher frequency being will prefer healing those relationships, clearing the energetic debris, interfacing, and hopefully choosing to find forgiveness for both self and others. Reaching neutrality or at best, unconditional love towards them is a powerful antidote to a sea of bad memories acted out on.

At this point, because we have a whole session devoted to relationships, I am going to invite you to expand your awareness of the influence of the key players in your family of origin. So, first, make a list of all who were involved up until age 12. For each one, including pets, play with the following:

1. Describe your relationship with them
2. List what they taught you and how you are like them in your life.
3. List how they might have compromised you and hurt you. Have you taken on any of these behaviors in your life?
4. Reflect on past lives with each. Take your first thoughts on these. Make up your associations and experiences, places and historical times, determine why they came back into your life ( I say make up because that is the fastest way into past lives. Act like you are doing so by taking the first thought and flowing with it, letting it reveal to you the information and details).
5. Make a list of what you hold against them. Be specific.

Move to be able to list the primary elements of influence on your life by all of these. Likely this will be a catalyst to the movement of the energetic residue you still carry, freeing you to look at each from the expanded perspective that reveals the bigger picture. A heart that is open and free from the burdens of blame is what you deserve and can attain. None of this was accidental. Your family of choice have likely been some of your greatest teachers. This awareness will lead you to the door of taking action. Again, the activity of recognition and acknowledging may be enough to cause significant release. Some may, however, require more focused work, which will come later. We are here to love…everyone, including self. Maybe this will become a vehicle for you to reopen stale connections. Course in Miracles says it is either Love or fear. In each moment you make your choice. You make the call…it is time.